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Know how to introduce your spouse
Do not say, "This is my wife, Mary." Say instead, "This is Mary, my
wife." Why? When you put the description before the name, it implies
that your spouse belongs to you, which is demeaning. The description
after the name suggests an independent person who just happens to be
married to you.
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Do not become the office clown
A few people do this out of nervousness. Some do it merely to be liked,
as it achieved that end in the past. But gaining a reputation as the
office jokester can be detrimental to your long term career. The
reasoning is simple: Coworkers are less likely to take you and your
ideas seriously. If this advice contradicts your naturally jovial
personality, here is an option. Maintain a low-key office persona
during working hours and a lighter, less business-like persona after
hours.
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Do not get intoxicated at business-related functions
This is one of the biggest out-of-office blunders. Using profanity in
the office is the only other blunder that tops this. For the record: If
you care about your career and the way you are perceived by others,
never -- repeat, never -- do either.
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Do not give your boss a gift
Unless you have a personal relationship with your boss, do not give him
or her a gift for holidays or birthdays. It is inappropriate, can be
seen as apple-polishing, and puts the employer in an awkward situation.
In general, try to downplay exchanging personal gifts in your office.
An option is to create an office fund for purchasing birthday flowers
or taking the employee to lunch.
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Do not correct your boss in public
If a mistake was made, explain it in private. An exception: If you are
in a meeting and your boss makes a major error in his or her
statements, you can speak up gently with something like: The last
figure I got was $2 million, not $4 million, Jim.
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Rise and shake hands during business introductions
In a business situation, when anyone enters the room and is being
introduced, stand and shake hands. Contrary to popular belief, it does
not matter who puts their hand out first. Another sidebar: Before a
staff meeting starts, wait in the conference room for the person who
called the meeting to arrive; remain standing until they enter and let
them take the best seat.
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Avoid sexual harassment
Play it safe and err on the side of caution. Some men still feel
obligated to tell a female colleague or client how nice she looks since
she changed her hairstyle or how attractive an outfit looks on her.
However, such comments denigrate your business relationship. Save such
compliments for personal friends.
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Mind your mealtime manners
When calling to extend a breakfast or lunch invitation, you should
clearly and immediately establish yourself as the host. When it's time
to pay the bill, the rule is simple -- the host pays. The host should
give the guest a choice of dates (e.g., How about next week? Monday or
Wednesday?), a choice of restaurants, and a choice of times (Would you
prefer 12:30 or 1:00?). Never discuss business until after your guest
has had the chance to order.
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Know when to use someone's first name
The general rule is that you always defer to authority by using an
honorific (Mr., Ms., Mrs., or Dr.) until you are given permission to
use a first name. It is always inappropriate to call prospective
clients by their first name until they give you permission to do so.
Additionally, even if you are on a first-name basis with your boss,
always introduce your boss to someone as Mr., Ms., Mrs., etc., and
include their title (e.g., This is Mr. John Doe, vice president of
Operations). At that point, your boss can tell the person to call them
by their first name, if so desired.
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Never use profanity in any business situations
This one is normally considered the biggest breach of business
etiquette, especially when it is aimed at people. There are few things
that so touch us with instinctive revulsion as the use of profanity.
Remember: Having good manners costs nothing, but it buys everything.